Couples

Nov 21, 2023

What Can Be Done About a Proactivity Gap in a Relationship?

Some relationships struggle due to discrepancies in proactivity between partners. In a recent blog post, I talked about how a proactivity...

Nov 15, 2023

The Proactivity Gap in Relationships

Recently, I have seen several relationships end due to discrepancies in proactivity. In these dynamics, one partner takes on more...

Nov 9, 2023

Treating the Realization of an Affair Like a Natural Disaster

The fallout of realizing an affair can be like experiencing a natural disaster. When I work with clients who have come to me just after...

Aug 28, 2023

The Courage to End a Relationship

Nourishing relationships can shelter us through difficulties and free up space for us to pursue what is important. Draining relationships...

Aug 22, 2023

Developing a Secure Base

One of the greatest hopes of couple therapy is that partners would be able to develop what attachment researchers refer to as a secure...

Aug 14, 2023

10 Questions to Ask Before Moving in With a Partner

Are you considering moving in with your partner? Taking the step to move in together in a romantic relationship can represent something...

May 8, 2023

To Have a Better Relationship... Become Comfortable with the Idea of Your Relationship Ending

Recently, I have been advising new couples in therapy to get comfortable with the idea that their relationship could end one day. This...

May 8, 2023

What Should I Do if I Found Out My Partner Went Through My Phone?

Your partner went through your phone! Yikes! It’s normal to feel violated, confused, sad, and angry. For some of us, finding out this has...